In a fast paced world where information is always being fed through social media it’s sometimes hard to sit back and just be happy with who you are. We are constantly being bombarded with the newest trends, styles and personalities. It is important to have role models don’t get me wrong, but sometimes you just have to learn to be happy with you are; after all there is only one of you and each and everyone of us is unique.
1: Realising you’re personality and who you are
I use to spend so much of my time when I was younger pretending to be someone that I wasn’t, not only is it in a way distressing because you’re hiding who you really are. It’s also really tiring, waking up in the morning and thinking that you have to be someone else in order to be accepted and liked by society. I soon came to learn that there are so many different types of people out there and of course there will be a group of them that will accept you for who you are! It wasn’t an overnight change, it came about pretty gradually and I started to be much happier when I acted as my true self. As a matter of fact, I found that when I was myself, I had friends that really accepted me rather than pretend to like me just because I was acting in a certain way. It’s definitely true to say that once you realise who are are and the kind of personality you have, you become much happier because you start to learn more about yourself; your aspirations and the kind of person you want to be.
2: Nobodies’ Perfect
This is definitely for everyone out there who is a perfectionist, I must admit that I am one too, and I’m still learning to get over it, but it’s not an easy one. The sooner you realise that nobody is perfect the faster you’ll accept and even appreciate your flaws. I remember when I was younger that I use to want to be the best at everything, of course this isn’t physical possible and I use to get really upset and disappointed in myself when I wasn’t the best. Finally, after years of encouragement from the people around me I started to realise that I can’t be the best at everything, but I can be pretty good at lots of things. In a way, I guess it’s much better to be pretty good at many things instead of being unbelievably good at just one thing because it means that you’ve got a big skill range! 😀 If you just be the best person that you can be without the drive for perfection, then you will be much happier person. You don’t need to keep fighting to be in the top place and you won’t be comparing yourself to everyone around you. Just remember that nobody is perfect and that everyone is just trying to be their best selves.
3: Stop Comparing Yourself
The last line of my previous tip leads on quite nicely to this one, about comparing yourself to the people around you. Don’t get me wrong, we do it all the time, whether it just be walking down the street and comparing yourself to the person who just walked passed or comparing yourself with people on academic or sporting endeavours. I’m pretty sure it’s a natural human trait to compare yourself to other people, but not to the point that it destroys you. If you’re the kind of person that compares yourself the people around you, you soon start to realise that you get pretty upset with yourself if you’re not doing “as well as them.” What is the definition of “doing well” anyway? Each and everyone of us is different so doing well for one person might be very different to doing well to another. Competition in life is healthy, it gives us targets and goals to aspire to; but there is no point of comparing yourself to someone if it makes you feel worthless. What’s the point of having a goal if you’re not going to enjoy the road to achieving it? I guess you can say that I’m a hypocrite, of course I compare my grades, my style etc to the people around me and social media doesn’t help, but I’ve learnt to stop comparing to the point that I start to lose faith and happiness with myself. I believe that we thrive the most when we are in our happiness state of mind, learning to stop comparing yourself to others in such a bitter way will make you feel better. It will allow you to appreciate who you are and to concentrate on your own goals and aspirations…No one else’s.
This is so different to the usual kind of post that I go for but it’s so important to me and I really felt the need to share it! These three tips have helped me become a happier person over the last few years and aided me in becoming more confident with who I am and I hope it will help you all too!
Let me know what you think about it and I shall see you in my next blog post! Izzy xxx