As living creatures go, we aren’t the nicest to ourselves. Our lives are based on competition, trying to be the best out of everyone, the most popular, the coolest, the smartest, the prettiest… and the list goes on. But is there ever a time where we can just sit down, and have a little love for ourselves?
I must admit, I scroll through Instagram, the web and see people at uni who are part of a group of friends,have a sense of belonging and envy them. I envy the fact that people have a friendship group of 20 people, get invited to everything, are the prettiest and smartest, in their course etc… But in reality, there will always be someone bigger and better than you and there is no point in wasting energy in comparing yourself to them, because at the end of the day, you are not them!
I think my greatest aim in life and something everyone else to learn to do more of is self love and appreciation! With all this competition and comparison we actually forget to look after ourselves and show ourselves appreciation. I think a lot of people feel that there is a fine line between self love, and selfishness. But I’d like to make a point about the clear distinction between the two! Selfishness is being solely concerned about yourself, your actions and not taking into account of how your actions affect others. Whereas, self love is simply proving to yourself that you are worth loving, there is absolutely no disregard for other people, unlike selfishness. Self love could be something as simple as taking time with your skincare routine because it is something you enjoy. It is about making the time to look after yourself after a tough day in the office. I think the airplane airbag analogy is a perfect way of looking at selflove.
Ever watched the safety video on a plane, where they say, ” please ensure you fit your own oxygen mask before helping others”? In essence, in the real world, that means you have to look after yourself because your can look after your loved ones. You can only fully love someone else once you learn to love yourself and see all the things about you that make you special and amazing! By no means am I saying that I think I’m amazing, there are definitely moments where my anxiety and self esteem bring me down. But something I want to try and do more is to look in the mirror and just be happy with who I am; that goes from looks, to academia, to just my personality! I just want to be able to look in the mirror in the morning and be happy with who I woke up as that day.
My god, I don’t think it will be an easy task, but I think it all starts and doing the things YOU LOVE! Spend time on your hobbies, with the people you like and just do what makes you happy! Stop doing things because other people do it and start to live your life as you want to. Don’t be afraid to of what people say, or what people are doing around you. After all, it’s your life, so design the life you want to live! YOU DO YOU!
Go out there and smash it!
Lots of love, Izzy x
ps. You’re way sexier, funnier and smarter than you think you are, just remember that!