2017 You’ve Been Good
This year has been one of a kind for me, I’ve completed my A Levels, started University and ticked quite a few things off my bucket list. But what have I learnt? Every year brings us new challenges that we have to face. Since 2017 bought some huge changes into my life, I though it would only be fitting to share what I learnt from this year and what I’m going to bring with me into 2018. Knowing what I leant this year is definitely going to help me set goals for next year! New Years resolutions can be small things or even much bigger things; but I always think it’s important to set yourself goals! a keeps you driving for bigger better things!
A blog post dedicated to my New Years Resolutions will be coming shortly after this one so keep an eye out! 😀
Good Things Come To Those Who Wait
Patience, so hard to learn but so good once you have it in the bag. I know it’s hard to wait for things that you really want, because honestly who wouldn’t want to grab something if its right in front of you?! I use to make rash decisions in the past because I couldn’t bear the thought of waiting for something and I had the fear of losing it. However, what I learnt from making rash decisions is that it may not always be the best thing for you. Sometimes when making these decision you don’t think about the situation carefully and you may end up making a misjudgement about it all. I now think it’s best to wait, have a think then see how you feel about it later on. You know, the classic, sleep on it and see how you feel in the morning rather than diving head first into a situation.
Okay, that doesn’t mean that you should leave everything last minute, no no no that isn’t what I mean. I simply mean, wait and think because something better might come up later 😀 .
Another thought I like to use is the classic boyfriend analogy, if you were talking to someone for a while but things don’t end up working out; it’s honestly not the end of the world! I know at the time it can be really upsetting especially if you really liked him. Don’t worry we’ve all been there once. There’s no point on dwelling on what didn’t happen but sit back and wait for someone better, more worthy of you. Speaking from experience this definitely does happen, these kind of things are always successful when you’re least expecting it or when you’re just not ready for it! 😉 As my dad use to say if it’s not meant to be then it’s not meant to be. There will always be something better waiting for you around the corner.
As I said earlier, it’s all about patience, the longer you wait the greater the reward seems because you’ve been waiting for a while for it to happen. It’s like a surprise waiting for you, everyone loves surprises much more than receiving something when you know that it’s going to happen! There’s no fun in that! 😉 So if you’re waiting for something, just take it easy and forget about it for a while; because something bigger and better will be coming your way! 😀
Do What You Want To Do
I think in society theres a lot of emphasis on making sure that you please others so that you aren’t deemed as being selfish or arrogant. But in reality, your happiness is what counts. If you’re doing something for someone else or something you really don’t want to do because everyone else is doing it then don’t even think about it! I learnt this one at uni, there maybe people who will make you try all sorts of things that you may or may not want to do. At the start, you may feel like you have to do it otherwise you may missing out on something or might you be scared that you’ll be looked down upon. But honestly, this is not the case! If you don’t want to participate then don’t ! You aren’t going to gain anything from being miserable and being put down by the whole situation. It’s much better to just give it a miss and make yourself just that little bit happier!
I know its a hard one because in some situations you can have FOMO (the fear of missing out) which is not a nice place to be in; but will you really be missing out if you’re just feeling miserable the whole time? Plus, don’t you worry people can fill you in on any details that happen ! 😉 I can most definitely say that I’ve felt this way before, and I probably will feel the same in the future but it doesn’t mean that you should feel that way!
I know that you don’t want to let people down, but in order to make other people happy you have to be happy yourself otherwise you won’t be of any help! Some advice I was once given was to, “look out for yourself first before helping others,” this is simply just because you can be of more help to others if you are yourself in a good place rather than if you are feeling unhappy! So look after yourself first and do what you want to do! Don’t do things to please others if it’s just going to make you unhappy. People are still going to like you for who you are! If they don’t like you because you don’t do something then they aren’t worthy of your friendship.
As I said earlier, this year was AMAZING! But of course in some aspects, 2017 was a hard year for me, many things didn’t turn out as I wanted them to, but what can you do?. Just because some things haven’t gone perfectly to plan, I’ve still had a fantastic YEAR! I’ve learnt things that I hope will make me a little wiser and stronger. I hope the things I’ve learnt this year will be useful for you going when going 2018 ! Learn form your mistakes and there will always be positive out of every “bad” situation so never lose light of that! <3
Lots of Love,